In subsequent posts, I will be writing about some of the beliefs and ideas that stood in the way of my own healing.
I am not, in this case, speaking necessarily of the messages I received through programming, but more about all the conditioned lessons that were left behind once the programmed controls were removed – the lessons absorbed through the course of a lifetime spent with a group of predators. I am addressing the things I was taught to accept, and the things I accepted simply because I had no other choice. I am addressing some of the assumptions and beliefs that contributed, on many levels, to making me who I was in their hands, and how I am now redefining myself on my own terms.
At the most rock-bottom level, programming is nothing but learning reinforced by trauma. No matter how it was subsequently glorified or mystified or otherwise complicated, this is really all it is – lessons taught to us about what to do and how to think and who we are, with trauma cementing the lessons into place.
Removing the programming – breaking the link between the lesson learned and the compulsion to believe or obey which was created by the trauma – is the easy part. But even once that compulsion is removed, the lesson itself remains, conditioned into our brains by hours of training and years of uncontested existence in our heads. Breaking the compulsion doesn’t automatically erase the action or belief with which it was associated. It makes it possible for new things to be learned, but it doesn’t do the work of rewriting the original lessons for us. If we truly want the messages given to us by the programmers to be completely gone, then we have to go on and do the immensely hard work of actually learning something new to replace what we learned from them.
Our self is the sum of our own freely chosen actions, thoughts, and beliefs.
If we change what we do and how we think, then we change who we are.
Some might say this is too simplistic to have any degree of credibility, especially when it comes to issues involving mind control, but clearly a person saying that has not actually tried it – or at least, they haven’t tried very hard.
This method is as successful as the individual makes it. Working at it for a day or a week, or only sporadically when in the right mood, will yield results accordant with the effort put in – that is to say, none. On the other hand, working at it every day, regardless of whether we feel like it or whether we think it’s working fast enough or whether it’s a good day for that kind of thing or whether the moon is crossing Venus at the wrong angle – consistent effort will yield results.
One thing I hoped to illustrate through this series is that the programmers’ control is a thin veneer, held in place largely by what we contribute to keeping it there. Mind control takes advantage of our emotions and our weaknesses to protect itself and prevent us from approaching or analyzing it. We are contributing most of the strength to our own programming, and to its protections.
But letting go of the things we went through such trauma to learn – letting those scars fade – learning instead the lessons that would have come to us by right if we had had a safer childhood – this is the real challenge.
This is where I am on my own path.
Although there are certain basic concepts that many of us might share, nobody’s path is exactly the same as anyone else’s. We all have to reach the point of being ready to work at healing by our own roads, and we each travel our own route through our histories and experiences and memories and interpretations, through our personal thoughts and feelings and beliefs, in order to come to our own resolution. The details individual to each of us means that everyone’s journey to health will be unique.
This being the case, the only person to whom my examples are necessarily going to apply is me. We all place obstacles in our own paths which we must resolve,but other people may have different obstacles facing them or different resolutions that work better for them. The posts to come will just be some examples of what has come up in my path, and the solutions that worked for me.
I do look forward to your Friday post. I do however disagree with doing the work when the moon is crossing Venus at the wrong angle. That is just inviting trouble, there are limits, one must have some rules.
This work is lonely and intensely personal, at times selfish. I so yearn for a group that I can belong to that is like me. Better yet a professional who can tell me what I am like, what I experienced, what I am experiencing and what I will experience so I don’t have to do the work.
Since I am dreaming better yet a pill or combination of pills or someone who can speak for me reliving me of the responsibility of knowing what I want to say. Maybe a place where I can go for half a year and do all the work at once.
The programmers and abusers views are kinda reinforced by how I am afraid it is me. I go to a town office and the person is rude so I wonder what I did. Does not sink in most people that I have run into at town offices are rude.
Many in the mental health field reinforce that something is wrong with me. After all I have a disorder not an injury. Even that excuse has worn thin. That what happens when I do the same thing over and over.
It is aggravating as what works for me is so weird and unexplainable. I needed and need to do much work on my brain. I need to do Sudoku, draw, play music and such. Not just for pleasure and it was very painful at first. It somehow changed things and I have no idea how I discovered this. I often go with if I had whatever it took to get through what I did and not be like them then now it is gone I must be able to deal with all of this.
So many changes that seem to come out of nowhere. I used to change actions and it would have little effect on how I felt. It changed my observed behavior, it had little effect on my internal behavior. Somehow now my internal behavior is changing.
Giving up what I worked so hard to excel at is not fun. I am good at taking charge, conflict and doing for others. Not helpful with this work. No wonder I avoid it.
My therapist is no help. every time I come up with something to try she agrees to try it out. She does not seem to understand that If she does not than I can blame her and not do the work. Oh bother.
“It is not he, she, it or they that I belong to. ”
Michael
Comment by MFF — July 3, 2009 @ 11:42 am
Hi Michael –
It’s really cool that you look forward to the posts. Thank you.
Comment by RockerGirl — July 10, 2009 @ 9:02 am